ok i'm watching this christmas movie, dunno what its called, cos i tuned in halfway through the movie. Oh, its called His & Her Christmas. and its those typical 'lets-celebrate-christmas-with-our-loved-ones-cos-life-is-beautiful-and-because christmas is about love and family' kinda movie. And I guess christmas does do that to you, regardless of race or religion really. (at least it does here in Singapore) You can't help but feel moved by it sometimes, especially if you have been guilty of it yourself, of letting yourself be occupied completely by work. and then theres the other typical theme of christmas movies, which happened to be the same theme of that movie i just mentioned. the i'm single and lonely and i have been so occupied with the notion of material success that i feel so sad suddenly during christmas only because this is christmas and everyone non-loser has a spouse or a special someone or at least a family to celebrate it with. even if you did return to your family for christmas, (like all families will during any major festival), they'll ask you why ur still single. like as if it isnt bad enough when you ask yourself that sometimes. when you look around at all the lovey-dovey couples around and ur attached friends and start wondering what it is that they have that you haven't got. And how you justify your preferences. like all i want is a decent, smart enough, pleasant looking funny guy whom i can click with. is that too picky or fussy i ask you? or too choosy? i doubt it really. reminds me of what Leen said the other time when we had this small conversation about how she's still single and I, like all other people immediately popped the question (no i didnt propose of cos) i asked her if she was too choosy/picky. and she gave an answer that i could relate with. Her exact reply was "well it isn;t like I have a whole long queue of guys to choose from". and yeah thats exactly my case too. I mean i'm wad, 22 and I already think I'm facing this same problem. Its common don't you think? How we like to assume that someone who's single is the one who'e choosy, who's picky, or fastidious. Why don't we ever consider the possibility that well just maybe there's aren't many to choose from anyway? that maybe those who are available, those who happen to be interested are the ones we can't go out with just bacuse we don't click and it has nothing to do with being fussy. in fact if the decision of not going out with someone because you cant click wth the person or because you cant see yourself with him is regarded as fussy, then its sad right? cos that would mean u need to change all your preferences for someone special just because you shoul;dn't be single. or maybe there needs to be less of an emphasis on the need to be attached. cos it isnt a crime to be single. but of cos i do believe that we're all made to have a special someone. its how we're made biologically, there is the physical need to be with someone. that's just one aspect of cos, there's also the spiritual need to connect with someone, and the emotional need to share that special close bond with someone. so its kinda like a whole thing, and I think there's also the formula to finidng your Mr. or Ms. Right. He/she has got to be able to connect with you on all levels, and on every aspects, there definitely has to be a balance of cos, but i guess thats exactly how u can get a relationship to last and work. else, it'll just end in a separation OR you just stay single till you meet your jigsaw puzzle piece. :)
Speaking of which, where is my other jigsaw piece??